DEALING WITH BREAK UP ?? HERE’S WHAT TO DO AND WHAT NOT !!!

1 year ago kashyapeesays 0

Breakups blow chunks. Whether it’s an amicable breakup or a horrible, crash-and-burn situation, you’ve invested a part of you into another person and must accept that a relationship that you once nurtured is dead and gone.

DO’S

1. Either block or unfriend him on Facebook, because that shit will be the death of you.

Block them everywhere: Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Skype, Snapchat and your phone.

I would also recommend steering clear of social media for at least a day or two; you’re not going to miss out on much in the way of your virtual social life, and it’ll keep you from creeping where you should not be and from making emotional posts that will embarrass you in the future.

2. Allow yourself to cry when you need to. Thus preventing a giant tidal wave of #feels to wash over you in the workplace, or anywhere else inappropriate. If you don’t, you’ll repress your feelings until you break down in the office or women’s bathroom.

3.Work through your issues.Learn how to channel your anger towards the breakup in a healthy way, whether it’s through music, writing, exercise, or some other outlet.

4.Turn your loss into a learning experience. Although you’re unable to alter the past, you can always learn from your mistakes. If nothing else, lessons can always be learned from a failed relationship.

5.Rediscover and reinvent yourself.Spend time with people who love you for you. Pick up a new hobby that makes you happy. Get a new hairdo, go on a trip with friends, lose some weight, or just catch up on things you’ve always wanted to do.

DONT’S

1. Don’t immediately suggest to “stay friends” — and if he does, tell him you need to think about it. This is an impulse because you don’t want to seem like you care too much about the breakup. You’re not admitting defeat by not staying friends with him.

2. If you feel an impulse to get drunk alone, call some friends instead. It’s the worst being alone and sad and drunk… at least be sad with people you love! We’ve all been heartbroken in our life.

3. If you want to drunk-text, get your friend to take your phone away or throw it in a volcano.  Him replying, “nothing,” to your booze-fueled, “sup,” does not mean you’ll have a spring wedding.

4. If you start dating someone else, take it really slow.  You just ended a relationship and your heart flipped over and exploded. If you take it step by step and enjoy it as a casual thing for a while, that’ll give you some time to evaluate whether you’re actually ready to be with someone again or not.

5. Don’t scheme to get him back — scheme to get yourself back. Get some solid book recs, join a pickup sports game, go on a trip somewhere with a girlfriend. Paint your bathroom; I don’t care. Just do something for yourself.

6. Avoid posting the details on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram or Tumblr. Live your life! Airing your grievances on social media is not good for anyone, and it’ll be embarrassing later. Who’s gonna read it, anyway?

It’s hard not to feel the sting after a relationship ends, and it’s even harder not to take it personally. But understanding that it is possible to make it through and even see changes in yourself on the other side can make the grief  more manageable.